Angry all the time



Angry all the time

Do you feel angry all the time? Do you feel frustrated with the people in your life, your spouse, your work, your staff, your customers? Do you find yourself snapping and exploding? Does your partner accuse you of having a tone? Are you tired of the anger and frustration and does this make you feel hopeless?

Being angry all the time and having frustration and being accused of having a tone are often signs and symptoms that you may have unhelpful belief systems and ideas that haven’t been developed enough to help you face how life works. People who are often angry or explosive or frustrated often haven’t learnt some of the grown-up life skills that they need, such as you can’t always get what you want in the exact way you want it.

Anger is often coming from the underdeveloped ideas about how life works, that life often does not go the way we want, in fact, it rarely does and we have to develop the mental flexibility and creativity to see what are our second, third and fourth choices. Oftentimes, people haven’t developed the skills and the thinking that they need to process these feelings and to think in more helpful, grownup ways.

Other times, anger comes from a place of feeling that you are entitled and that you are used to getting your way and it often works with people closest to you because there are no consequences. These things tend to undermine relationships and may result in reduced quality of sex or no sex with your partner because they feel hurt and afraid of you, poor relationship with your children and over time more and more difficulties at work and feedback from colleagues and workers.

Anger is not necessarily an anger management problem but it is better described as is somebody who didn’t learn how to deal with their feelings and needs better ways of thinking to address their life.

Therapy is often described by people who have successfully completed it as everything in their life is better but nothing has changed. Meaning they have learned to think about things in new ways by modifying and updating their belief system, ideas and thinking skills.

 Therapy deals with helping people to learn how to think better, because most people know what they need to do but they don’t know why they are not able to do it and this is where therapy comes in. If you would like to stop the cycle of anger and explosion and damaged relationships and then the difficult process of trying to recover from that only to have the cycle repeat itself, therapy can help you.

Contact us at +65 9030 7239 or send us an email at ta***@al***********************.com.

All in the Family Counselling Centre has been providing therapy in Southeast Asia and Singapore for two decades. Tammy Fontana, our lead therapist, is skilled at working with difficult cases and clients. She is dealing with complex developmental issues, trauma, attachment, marriage, communication. She is also a clinically trained sex therapist so she can help with wide aspects of people’s lives and relationships.

Lastly, our Centre combines individual and couple therapy with our intensive retreats and recovery retreat program. These retreats are like six months of therapy in which clients are taken away to an offside location in Croatia, Pula in which a custom, unique program is tailored for them and their therapy goals and treatment. Contact us now at +65 9030 7239, WhatsApp is preferred.