ARRANGED MARRIAGE ARRANGES SEX



ARRANGED MARRIAGE ARRANGES SEX

Have you recently been married in an arranged marriage? Is your partner somebody you’ve known less than six months? Have you yet been unable to constipate your marriage? Have you had sex and it has been unsuccessful or less than satisfying? Is your partner avoiding having sex with you?

Many Indian couples get married with knowing each other for a very short period of time. There is often this idea of having intimacy because we are now married. Unfortunately, this often does not result in good sexual experiences.

Just because a couple gets married does not mean that they will be able to have intimacy or have good, positive sexual relations. We refer to this as unearned intimacy in which couples do not have the knowledge or experience or comfort with each other. In order to have a good sexual relationship, couples need to have a number of things. They need to have proper information and education about sex and sexuality, they need to be good with communicating their needs and wants, as well as being able to set boundaries, and they need to be able to handle their feelings and properly express them.

Without being able to have these particular things in place and having sex with somebody that you do not know is often likely to result in poor or bad experiences. The unfortunate thing is if you have one or two bad experiences, people start to associate negative feelings and ideas with sex and then they want to avoid it.

Unfortunately, too many couples also are not comfortable or knowledgeable in talking about sex, sexuality and intimacy and therefore the conversations often are very ineffective and produce many arguments and hurt feelings.

All in the Family Counselling and lead therapist, Tammy Fontana, has been providing therapy for just under two decades. She is a US trained, clinically trained sex and intimacy therapist, along with mental health therapist. She works with couples who are dealing with their relationship as well as with the lack of sex or sexuality. She helps to educate them the things that are required for two and happy and satisfying emotional intimacy. If you would like to learn how therapy can help you, please contact us at +65 9030 7239 or email us at tammy@allinthefamilycounselling.com.

All in the Family Counselling Centre and Tammy Fontana have been providing therapy for just under two decades in Singapore and Southeast Asia. Ms. Fontana has extensive experience working with the Indian population and their cultural beliefs and unique issues surrounding marriage, relationships and family.

 We provide a platform in which we offer online therapy because couples are often living apart or travelling and this format allows for the widest range of days and availability, as well as for couples to do therapy even if they are living apart or travelling.

In addition, Ms. Fontana provides retreats in Pula, Croatia. These offer face-to-face and are intensive therapy conducted over a week in which they combined activities, education and daily therapy, in which the therapist can observe, live with and help couples. It’s the equivalent of six months of therapy. Our unique offering helps. Ms. Fontana addresses a wide range of client’s needs and really provide true and meaningful change. Please contact us to learn more.